What Changes Are You Making in Your Life Right Now? And WHY?

What changes are you making in your life right now? And why??

I want you to think about this and, if you can, share with me when you are done reading this post.

I’ll go first.

My focus right now is on getting better and better at learning how to structure my time in a way that allows me to be home with my kids while also building my coaching practice AND taking care of myself.

That last one, though – taking care of myself?

It’s usually the first to take a hit whenever I take on more tasks or push myself to do and become more as a person.

Particularly when it comes to how much I SLEEP.

Anyone else have this problem?!

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Lack of Sleep is a Problem

Here’s just a few examples of what I am talking about:

1. Growing up…

I was very academically focused growing up. I set a goal at an early age to be Valedictorian and I often sacrificed sleep in the name of producing the best work possible and doing extra credit to achieve the highest grades possible (I am not even kidding here – I had like 129% in shop in the 7th grade – and I think there were very few classes I earned less than 100% in that year). I was the Valedictorian for my high school class. But it cost me A LOT of sleep.

2. In college…

In college, my goal was to make as many friends as possible and go on as many first dates as possible. I stayed up WAY too late socializing and hanging out with friends. Nothing crazy mind you. Talking and the occasional 5 AM snowball fight. #totalgoodgirl Ha! I went on a lot of dates and I had a lot of fun. But sacrificed SO. MUCH. SLEEP.

3. Working as an auditor…

When I worked as an auditor, I was always the top of my class. But I worked 70-80 hour weeks on average most of the year. I produced high quality work, but did a lot of work that wasn’t really necessary. I love, love, LOVED my job and the work I did. But it came at HIGH personal cost. I gained 40+ pounds in the first couple years of the job, stayed up too late working, even DREAMED about working, and did not prioritize my relationship with my hubby.

4. Being a mother…

Now, in these early years of motherhood, I have a history of staying up too late to do things that end up costing me SO. MUCH. SLEEP.

We all know how important sleep is.

Lack of sleep can seriously impact other important areas of our lives.

Like our ability to focus and our ability to be patient and present with our littles.

Or our desire to be intimate in our marriages.

Or our ability to eat as well as we’d like without stress eating in the pantry.

So here’s the deal…

I’m ready for lasting change.

I’m tired of the hustle. I’m tired of overworking. I’m tired of sacrificing myself in the name of getting things done.

I want to be home with my kids AND go after my big dreams, BUT I don’t want it to come at the expense of my health and my relationships with my family.

And I want more SLEEP.

I’ve made a LOT of progress and learned so much over the past several years, but if you are a mom to littles, you know that just when you figure something out, something else changes and you’ve got to figure things all out again.

That is where I continually find myself.

I just had a baby in December and I’ve got two other boys with schedules that change every few months. Plus a husband who is dang good at his job and often needs to work longer hours.

Motherhood requires some serious skills.

How We Get It Done

Life coaching tools have been a game changer for me, and I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that they can be a game changer for you, too.

As a result, I can not WAIT to share them with you as I show you just how I use them to solve my problem…and many more problems to come. 🙂

Cause I am FOR SURE going to solve this problem for myself.

Yes. Even with a newborn.

In fact, ESPECIALLY with a newborn.

Cause I’m pretty sure NO ONE needs sleep and self-care more than a mama with a newborn.

Am I right?!

You KNOW it’s true if you’ve been there. I have never been more tired in my life than I was with my first baby. HOLY. MOLY.

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WHY This Matters To Me

Whenever we set out to accomplish something for ourselves, it’s important to consider WHY it is important to us, as well as why we don’t have what we want now (we’ll save the latter for another blog post).

I want to love myself more than anyone else could possibly love me. To take care of me first and ALWAYS have my own back in terms of my time and how I treat myself in my own mind.

This is SO important to me, because doing so allows me to contribute more to others. To provide better health opportunities for my kids. To (hopefully) do more with my life physically as I age and experience fewer health issues .

I want to feel like I’m 20 when I’m 80…instead of how it was in my 20’s when I felt like I was 80!!

And here’s the reason why I am so passionate about sharing this work with you…

I am generally THRIVING as a mom with a NEWBORN and 2 OTHER KIDS while also BUILDING A COACHING PRACTICE.

And I say that not to brag – but because I want you to know that IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF ME.

I am nothing special.

In fact, I’m a normal human just like you. I have my own fair share of problems just like anybody.

There was a time when I felt totally lost in my life. I time when I was quite the bitter and resentful wife (though I didn’t realize how much so at the time). A time when I didn’t eat well at all. A time when I had such terrible lower back issues that I would sometimes need help getting out of bed or making my way to the bathroom. And a time when I went through a major faith crisis.

I am where I am right now because of my ever increasing ability to manage my mind and create whatever results I desire in my life. It’s a skill I get better and better at as I practice. And it’s HANDS DOWN something you can learn too.

Please Know This…What You’ve Been Capable of in Your Past is No Indication of What You Are Capable of in Your Future

I tired A LOT of things in an effort to change these habits before discovering The Life Coach School and the tools I’ve learned.

Back then, it didn’t matter what I tried. I couldn’t seem to figure out what the problem really was or how to fix it. I always ended up right back where I began. It was one willpower push after another that NEVER led to lasting change. I was totally stumped. And totally stuck.

But that doesn’t mean I’m never going to figure it out. Quite the contrary. You see, I now know exactly how to identify the cause of my problems and solve them. And I know how to help you do that, too.

Learning this work is an incredible gift I’ve given to myself and a gift I absolutely LOVE to give to others.

This is happening, my friends.

So, if you’re curious to learn more and see these tools working in action – come along with me!

Because I am FOR SURE going to solve this problem for myself and, in the process, teach you the framework for how you can solve your problems, too.

And now it’s your turn…

What changes are you making in your life and WHY?

I want to hear!! Post in the comments below or send me a message in the sidebar to the right.

💕 Deise

P.S. I recently updated my booking calendar to include slots for free 1-hour coaching sessions. If you’d like help solving one of your problems, please click here to book one of the slots before they’re gone. It would be my honor!

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When You Don’t Know Where to Begin…

Have you ever had something you want to do, felt totally excited thinking about doing it, and then, when you get ready to do it, experience all the excitement completely disappear as you become totally overwhelmed and confused not knowing where to begin?

This was me as I sat down to write this very post.

So, I thought, what a great topic for this endeavor I’m about to take on.  😊  Ha!

As you may or may not know, I’m participating in a program to help me build my coaching business, and one of the assignments as part of that is to write 30 blog posts in 30 days…and I can already tell this is going to bring up so much drama for me that I am going to get to work through and manage my mind around.  And what a great opportunity that will be for me to use the tools I have and to share them with you!

But I digress.  For now, let’s talk about what’s really going on when we go to tackle those exciting ideas only to discover that the actual process of bringing that idea into fruition is not all excitement and fun times by default.

It’s hard.

Here’s how this looked for me.

New goal: Write 30 blog posts in 30 days.

My initial thoughts?

This will be great!  Ah, I have so many amazing ideas of things I want to share to help other moms with their time.  This is going to be amazing and I can’t wait to get started!!

Feeling? Totally excited.  Seriously itching to get to the time on my calendar when I get to begin.

So let’s fast forward there.  We have now arrived at the awaited time on my calendar.

It’s time!!

I sit with my pen and paper and an intention of brainstorming what I want to write about for these 30 days.

As I get going, I realize there truly are SO many options.  Where the heck do I even begin?!

And just like that I start spiraling.  The excitement is gone.  The thoughts start spinning out of control.  And before I even know what’s happened, I’m swimming in a pool of overwhelm, doubt, and confusion.

We often have thoughts like this, where we think we are just stating the news.

There ARE lots of options.

I DON’T know where to begin.

But friends, while these seem like mere observations…they are actually thoughts.  Thoughts that create a particular experience for us when we take them on.  Thoughts that create overwhelm, doubt, and confusion, and leave us sitting there staring at a blank piece of paper and getting nothing done and questioning our abilities.

It’s not a fun place to be.  So, what do we do once we are there?

The first step, of course, is always awareness.

For me, I noticed I was feeling stressed and overwhelmed.  I could feel it in my body.  And I have enough experience with this pattern to know which thoughts are the likely culprits.  Ha!

Maybe there are lots of options.  Maybe I don’t know where to begin.  But it doesn’t serve me to think about things that way.  And, in fact, those are the very thoughts that lead to me feeling paralyzed and stuck.

You see, just because something is true doesn’t mean we ever have to think it.  There are SO many options available to us to think about things.

When I think there are lots of options and I don’t know where to begin…I don’t begin, and I just SPIN.

I also noticed I was having some other thoughts in there as part of that spin.  Thoughts like, “I have nothing to say.  I have no value to add.  I can’t compete.”

And these thoughts?  Well, once I realized these were in my brain I was immediately able to tell myself, “You know, that’s just not true.  I have SO much value to add.  And I’m not here to compete.  I’m not here to compare and despair.”

And then I reminded myself, “There is always something I can share, even if it’s something small.  It doesn’t need to be perfect.  It doesn’t need to be grand.  There is one small lesson I can share from my day.”

And I felt my body relax a bit and soften.  And, with those thoughts I became curious.  I began searching my day for lessons learned and what would be valuable to share.  For something that may help another stay-at-home mama like me.

And it occurred to me in that moment that this very experience was the experience to share.  Because – while you may not be experiencing these thoughts as part of a blog post challenge – it’s quite likely you experience these same kinds of thoughts under different circumstances.

Maybe you are wanting to tackle all those paper piles in your house and finally be free of paper clutter.

Maybe you are wanting to get that garage or storage closet cleaned out.

Maybe you are wanting to take better care of yourself and have all these ideas of habits you’d like to create for yourself.

Maybe you are wanting to spend more quality time with your kids and do more fun activities with them.

Whatever it is, you have those moments where you think about that outcome you want and you get SO dang excited.  And then you sit down to make it happen…and the excitement drains…and all that overwhelm and confusion creeps in and takes over.

Have you experienced this?

If you are human, I am willing to bet the answer is yes.  Because this is what human brains do at times.

Please know that nothing is wrong with you if you see yourself being overcome by this cycle.

You are human.  And you have a human brain.  And no one ever taught you that it is just thoughts creating this cycle, not something that is inherently wrong with you as a person.

Nothing is wrong with you.

Your brain is just executing a thought (and then another and another).

So, the next time you feel like there is just too much to think about and / or you don’t know where to begin…

Consider asking yourself what one thing you could do, and then do that one thing.

Know that it doesn’t have to be perfect.  And know that there is no right or wrong answer.

What one small step can you take to move yourself forward?

What is the very first baby step you could take?

Do that, and let it be enough.

💕 Deise

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