If you’ve been following my blog, you may be aware that I haven’t been feeling my best this past week.
I’ve been bedridden for the better part of the past three days.
Each day, more “mess” has accumulated in my house.
My brain defaults to thoughts like…
My house is a disaster.
I’m so behind on everything.
It’s going to take forever to get caught up.
I’ve spent some time reminding myself of a few things.
1) My brain is over-dramatizing things. And I have the power to neutralize it.
My house is not actually a disaster.
How do I know?
Because, a house hit by a tornado is a disaster. (Though, I suppose even that is a thought!)
My house is far from the level of tornado destruction.
So, I neutralize it by stating the facts.
There are dishes in the sink and on the counter.
There is food on the counters, table, and floor.
There is laundry in laundry baskets (clean and dirty).
There are toys on the floor.
You get the idea.
Stating it this way feels so much less stressful and overwhelming.
2) I remind myself that the reason I want things to be clean and back “in order” is because of the feeling I associate with that.
I love feeling clean and organized and put together. 🙂
My brain loves to be efficient, so it has connected that when my house is clean, I feel those things.
But, it’s important to know that I’m not feeling those things because things are clean, but rather, because of what I am THINKING about things being clean.
And here’s the really beautiful thing that I have learned from coaching…
My external world doesn’t have to be perfect for me to feel the way I want to feel.
And, in fact, because of this, my life can be better than perfect – because I can generate the feelings I want to feel without having to control what is happening outside of me.
I felt well enough today to spend more time out of bed than I spent in it.
And, rather than feeling the need to push myself to get as much clean as possible…rather than feeling the need to spend the whole day cleaning trying to “catch up”…
I listened to my body and settled on wiping down the table and doing a couple loads of dishes.
And then, I spent the rest of the time taking it easy, connecting with my boys, and making time for other things that are important to me – like a coaching call (first one I didn’t have to cancel this week – yay!), this blog post, and time in the spa with my hubby.
Even more magically than that is that I’m not letting everything that isn’t done bother me.
Now, I’m not saying that this is always how it goes down in my brain.
Sometimes I get caught up in the “need to clean” – and I totally give into the cleaning marathon urge.
But, it happens less and less often.
If this is something you struggle with, consider building rest time into your cleaning time. For example, clean for 20 minutes, and then rest for 10 minutes.
And know that everything doesn’t have to be clean for you to feel better about it.
You don’t have to get it all done.
You’re amazing, no matter what your house looks like.